We may earn money from links on this page, but we only recommend products we love. Having no predetermined sexual script looming over you gives you the freedom to do whatever the f works for you. With vulva to vulva non bonery, you also have a slight home court advantage of knowing your way around the equipment, since you've got similar stuff going on between your legs. And if you don't happen to possess a vulva sorry, mate , you can still use some of these tips to get a few ideas about what kinds of things a woman might like. Lie face down side-by-side. Fill your hand with lube and cup it under your girl's vulva, while she does the same for you.