Sex before marriage is it good

Society tells us that it's dirty, filthy, and wrong, and women who have it are sinners who have to pretend that they don't know what a male organ looks like. Then, on that magical day at some point in their adulthood, those formerly dirty women get married if any guy will still have them and their tattered hymens and the sex act, a thing they've been doing in a dirty way for years, suddenly transforms into an amazing and blessed experience. Sex, you see, is a very bad, dirty thing that you should only do with someone you love very, very much. At The Guardian, Jill Filipovic explains, in one of the most comprehensive and straightforward ways why our society's attitude about sex before marriage is hindering happiness, and how embracing sex as something that can and should be shame-free. Do you agree with this analysis? Share your views with us in the comments section.

Sharing personal information brings people closer together. Verified by Psychology Today. The Human Beast. More people today are sexually active before marriage than ever before. The true reasons are practical and have little to do with changing belief systems. In America a century ago, only a small minority of women were sexually active before marriage about 11 percent 1 , compared to a large majority today.

A mericans love to tout the value of waiting until marriage to have sex. We teach abstinence-only education in schools across the country, and even comprehensive sex-ed programs often point out that "abstinence is best. There's a booming "purity industry", complete with jewelry, elaborate events, books, t-shirts and DVDs. Our state and federal tax dollars have long been spent promoting "chastity". While conservative commentators are happy to assert that waiting until marriage is the best choice for everyone and people who don't wait aren't doing marriage "the right way", sex-positive liberals hesitate to say that having sex before marriage is an equally valid — if not better — choice for nearly everyone.

Hey, I'm all for people putting off sex until they're adults and can handle the ramifications. Because even with safe sex, sex comes with responsibilities. It does tend to emotionally bond you to someone, and that can mean getting emotionally attached to the wrong person. Once sex enters the equation, a relationship is never the same.